Interview Series: Nicky Bricks

state your name/age/occupation

nicky bricks / 26 / recording artist, dancer, performer

you’re in a relationship, correct?

yes.

how long have y’all been dating?

6 months.

where did you meet?

at hemmingways

what’s your take on meeting guys at bars/clubs vs other places (coffee shop/museum/etc.)?

it might be cliche to meet someone at a bar and hook up with them, but i feel like if you’re meant to meet someone it doesn’t matter where it happens.

do you believe in true love and marriage?

yea, in a sense. i think that they don’t have to be mutually conclusive… but yea, fuck yea i believe in the dream – meeting the right person and settling down, being with that person. i think it’s a beautiful thing. but it doesn’t always work out like that… haha

do you consider yourself a ‘ride or die’? and how would you define that term?

yea, absolutely. i think that once you decide to be down for someone you make the decision to be with them throughout life’s unpredictable shit.

how did you lose your virginity?

i was in 8th grade and it was to my boyfriend at the time. it totally just felt like it was something i had to do. i actually think there was a group of girls that were like ‘we’ve all lost our virginity and we all smoke cigarettes so…’ and i was like ‘well shit…’ haha. i definitely don’t feel like i was pressured into it, but i think that after it happened i was kind of desensitized and just felt weird.

did you guys continue having sex after that?

absolutely, i was with that person for a couple years after that. i was young – you’re never really ready you know? it just happened.

where did it take place?

at his parents house during school hours. i cut class haha.

i die! bad girl oooo ;) haha. okay so a lot of couples talk about how sex can become sort of blasé after being together for while – how do you plan on keeping things spicy with your man?

um, i feel like we’re both just impossibly attracted to each other and it hasn’t faded yet so… i don’t really see it happening in the future. i like to have really random sex, like sex in different places you know? i’m like ‘i don’t really care where’ i think i said that to him the other day haha.

have you ever had sex in public places before?

yea, mostly when i was younger. i actually had sex in the back hallway of a mall when i was like 18 or 19 haha. like back in the super duper cut. i think i drank a mickeys before that haha.

so you used to dance/do performance art at voyeur (old S&M themed club) can you tell me a little bit about that?

i think that particular job and that particular place and the people that i was aligned with in that time of my life really shaped who i am – not only as a performer, but as a person. the first night i worked i was put with another girl and i was told to be the submissive one in the sub/dom situation. basically my task was to just let go and let my mind go to another place and not acknowledge the fact that people were watching me, and i think that moment was a defining moment for me.

seriously, because letting go translates into no fucks given, which translates into a certain type of freedom where you’re not allowing/receiving the judgement of others and you can be yourself. i would have been so nervous!!

it’s weird because i wasn’t nervous. i kind of felt like i was called to do that, and it was something that broke down a lot of walls for me and helped me grow into a new kind of artist which was kind of cool. and we did a lot of fucked up shit after that haha. like a lot of weird shit.

haha like what?

we did the nun birth, where we dressed as nuns and we’d give birth to this like two-headed baby and we’d have a water-bottle mixed with food coloring for the water breaking – shit like that. then we had a dance we used to do with dildos where we had boxes and danced to a remix of mr. postman. we would come out with these little boxes and open them and basically did stomp with dildos.

OMG I DIE!

yep haha and i was the star of the dildo dance every time. we’d have cans of silly string preset and at the end everyone would be slapping me in the face with their dildos and i would like cum silly string all over the crowd. it was epic shit.

that’s fucking awesome, dude. THAT’S SO FUCKING AWESOME! i love that – i live for that.

yep, topless in masks. so if you know me, you would know who i am, but it’s like if you don’t then it’s completely anonymous.

do you feel like the masks helped give you the power to not give a fuck?

yea and it’s cool, i still work with the same company that does all the SBE clubs, and we still have the same rule that once you step out on the floor it’s your floor and you’re in character and you don’t let anyone fuck with you. really no one would fuck with you because there’s this essence about you, you know? i don’t know, i think being nude or being topless or having some part of yourself exposed is really empowering. and i’m out here with my tiny ass titties and i’m comfortable with myself.

being comfortable in your own skin is SO important. i’ve always considered you a very sexy, confident woman and i look up to and respect you for that. i feel like a lot of girls nowadays are very insecure – do you have any advice for them so they can embrace being a sexy/confident woman?

aw thank you i’m honored you would say that about me. i think it’s all about being comfortable with who you are – and it sounds super corny, but it’s true. i think a lot of girls think being sexy is a thing that they need to strive to be, but really it’s just what turns you on and that’s something that you can only find within yourself. i feel like the better you know yourself the more confident you’re going to be.

i agree 100%.

and it took me a long time to get here. it’s not like i came out of the womb like this haha. it’s definitely taken some soul searching to be this person.

is there anything that you used to struggle with?

umm, i mean… well being on-stage also kinda forces you to come out of your comfort-zone, so that’s always kind of hard in the beginning. i remember being a kid i was terrified and i’d have to pee every time before i went on, and i still have to pee every time haha. eventually you find that place where you’re just exposed to everyone and you’re comfortable with that. i think that produces great art.

so you’re launching your new solo music project and i hear it has a sexy edge to it – can you tell me more about that?

i’ve had a lot of experience in other groups and in the music industry, and i’ve really found my own sound lately – my flow, or whatever rappers call it, haha. it’s going to be very dancehall inspired but with kind of a dark rap edge. it’s something that really represents myself. i’ve been having this epiphany these last couple days where the artistic vision i have for this project is me evolving into my higher self. i’m going to be wearing these head pieces and being very theatrical, queen-like, and i feel like it’s the final tier of myself. the music is going to be nuts. i want to break boundaries and do different things, but i want it to still be fun. i’ve always had a darker edge, and i don’t know where that comes from. i just want to do weird shit.

has sex/relationships had an effect on your music at all?

yea, definitely. i think that it’s almost like the sexual revolution that happened in the late 60s – when you finally become comfortable in yourself, you can express yourself in ways you never thought possible.

what are some of your turn ons/offs?

umm… turn ons would definitely be confidence and class, which my boyfriend just fucking nails. class doesn’t have to mean status – it’s just a way of approaching a woman.

like in an old-school/true gentleman kind of way?

yea, that’s probably what swept me off my feet. but on the other hand i also like really dirty sex haha. i’m a woman in the streets and a freak in the sheets. since i played that submissive role at voyeur i guess i kind of found that to be one of my fetishes. i’m kind of bossy in my day to day life, and it’s, uh i think i stole this from rihanna haha, she had some interview where she was talking about how she likes to be the boss but not in bed.

it’s a release. submissively how?

i mean i just want to be bent over and fucked at the end of the day. i like when they take control. or like sometimes he holds my hands back…

have you ever experimented with bondage?

only in performance, which is kind of weird. i’ve never brought it into my personal life, but yea it turned me on when i was doing it on stage. there’s something to be said about being tied up too, the submissive thing, just not having control. that’s about as far as it’s gone though sexually.

not having control is exciting. what about turn offs?

over-confidence, arrogance… i think dudes have lost a lot of respect for women, like especially in the scene of our generation. i don’t know, a lot of these things have been said before but i just feel like it’s so applicable. we’re all open – i have a pretty big mouth and i’ll kind of say whatever, but i’ve always had respect for myself and i feel like i struggled with that when i was single. that being so open and having respect for myself and still wanting respect from other people when i was with them, and it just didn’t happen. i feel like that’s my biggest turn off if that makes sense.

i agree. if you don’t have respect for me i can’t fuck with you.

consistency is also a good turn on. add that to the list.

do you have any fantasies you ever wanted to live out?

hmm… i haven’t really gone into detail, but it probably does involve a lot of being tied up and not having control, which we already talked about. and… i’m like i’ve kind of already done a lot of stuff haha.

haha like what?

i’ve had threesomes in the past, which are fun, but you can’t have them with your boyfriend or really anyone that you like haha. let me specify – only girl/girl/guy threesomes because the other way around is sus. just save the other way for the pornos, for the people who get paid for it.

how do dancing and sex correlate with you?

it has definitely, definitely, definitely helped my sex life. i mean rhythm… my back arches really far…

LA, for being so big is so small, how do you deal with the drama (running into exes out/being in relationship limbo where you’re not dating but you’re not bf/ gf, etc.)?

i feel like when i was single i kind of had the air about me that i was cool with whatever, which was not the way to be, because then it just seemed like i was cool with whatever and then you get taken advantage of. it’s just a fine line to cross and i’m glad i don’t have to deal with it anymore. when it’s with friends and mutual friends of friends, you can’t expect someone to just not saying anything at all. i mean that’s why we have girlfriends is to chit-chat about things – it’s what we’re doing right now. when other people’s feelings get involved and other people’s social/work situations get involved it’s best to just let it ride – it happened let’s not speak of it again. saving face is something that we all still need to do, since we all have a social platform of some kind and we don’t want to be sluts. that was a tough one haha.

would you consider yourself a kinky person?

yea, compared to normal people i guess. i feel like people just take one look at me and think i’m a kinky person, which, i mean, is fine i guess. my boyfriend’s always like ‘is that the kind of stuff you’re into?’ and i’m like where do you get these ideas haha. i’m like into whatever we do it’s fine, it’s been great.

aw i’m glad you’re so happy. any last words/thoughts/etc. on sex/relationships/anything?

i think it’s really important to be in love with who you are. everyone still has growth periods to go through, i’ve definitely had my fair share, and i think that being in a good relationship is the result of all that growth. he does things to me no one else has been able to do, so i don’t plan on dipping out soon.

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